When One Small Step Is Anything But Small

People tend to believe that it’s the big things in life that have the most significance, but I don’t necessarily agree.  Small things often make the greatest impact, and one group of people know exactly what I mean.

If you’re the parent of a typical child, there are so many “firsts” and accomplishments that the small steps often get lost in the shuffle.  Not so for parents of children with an autism spectrum disorder.  For these parents, life is all about watching for the smallest possible step.  About knowing the minutes, days, and months of effort that went into making this step happen.  It’s often only those closest to the child who can understand and appreciate what this is all about.

Ever sit and watch a flower bloom?  You rarely see anything, but look away for a day and the changes are often amazing.  Parents of children with autism spend much of their lives closely watching for that bloom to happen … for that “one thing”, that small step that will show them that their child is learning to speak, respond, play, understand.  And they see it when it happens.

This past week, I spoke with a parent who was sharing how her child was finally able to tolerate something that had been – up to that point – intolerable.  For most parents, this would have been seen as a “get over it” moment, but not for this parent.  It was a huge obstacle that impacted her child’s ability to function and the family’s ability to function as well.  Anyone who would say that a small step isn’t a major milestone is someone whose life hasn’t been touched by autism.

Think about it this way…most people stand back and look at life like admiring a huge mural painted on the side of a building.  But for parents of children with autism, they’re standing right up close, seeing every single stroke of the brush.  When your child struggles on a daily basis in a world that assaults their senses and challenges their abilities, every step forward is anything but small.  These parents know what they’re looking for and even if they don’t, they still see when something changes or some progress is made.  That’s because they’re always looking and hoping for it.

That infamous line…”One small step for man, one giant leap for mankind” are words that ring true for each and every parent of a child with autism.  Every small step their child makes is a leap indeed, for it paves the way for a future of possibilities.  And possibility is that wonderful thing that keeps parents moving forward.

Life is about giving and receiving and I don’t know any single group of individuals who give more than parents of children with autism.  So isn’t it wonderful that one of the things they receive is the ability to see these small steps happen right before their eyes?  Whoever said that you can’t watch a flower bloom never knew what they were looking for.

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